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ordinary love

December 27, 2007

i know lots about ordinary love

for instance, for all that i know it is ordinary, it is still powerful stuff. particularly in its ability to make otherwise sensible people do some truly foolish things.

and ordinary love really isn’t all that scarce.

in fact, i see it every day.

and i remember my experiences with it. old memories, true, but my mind is still dependable enough to navigate them accurately without too much rosy embellishment.

in fact, i know so much about ordinary love that i can say without hesitation that the love i am in now is anything but.

i don’t know when it happened

or how

but i find myself in the midst of a truly great love

the kind of love that makes you break down walls. the kind of love that is forever making you want to be better . . . even though it accepts you as you are.

most of all, its the kind of love that flows both ways.

the kind of love that is often a hard love. brutal. the kind that takes such a deep toll you could never count the cost – and that is so worth it that you never would.

the kind of love that takes the flight option out of the fight or flight response. there is never any question of running. you always stay and fight. to always find a way to make it work.

and i have come to believe that it is probably a rare thing.

i’ve heard the phrase *once in a lifetime love* but i wonder if it is something that comes into every lifetime. or if everyone recognizes it when it does.

i didn’t recognize it until it was all but too late.

this christmas was perhaps the best christmas i have ever had. not because of the gifts or the food or the entertainment (children on christmas morning are wildly entertaining creatures) but just having time to be with my wife, with my family . . . i got almost no sleep . . . we were running everywhere . . . and little enough time to even sit down . . . (i got saddled with cooking breakfast and dinner [at two separate houses]) . . . but i’ve never felt so relaxed.

don’t get me wrong – i got some great loot. my wife got me a new incense and a new cologne, both of which were so subtle and so . . . me . . . and i sooooo never would have gotten either for myself (it would never have occurred to me). my kids got me a big sturdy folding chair that comes in a carrying bag so i can watch their games in comfort.

it’s funny, i used to wish i could go back in time and change some of the mistakes i made and craft a better life for myself.

but i look at those mistakes and where they have led me and i am glad i don’t have the power to go back for a *do over*

because i cannot imagine a better life

and i certainly would not want to ever risk fixing things to such an extent as to end up with an ordinary love.

life is about struggle. and the struggle is what makes us strong.

it is struggling together that lifts us above the ordinary to something great.

4 Comments leave one →
  1. December 28, 2007 00:26

    This made me smile. Not much more to say than that.

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    December 28, 2007 01:20

    the struggles are so worth it, arent they . .
    lovely post.

  3. December 28, 2007 06:37

    This is a beautiful post.

    I grow deeper in love with you every day.

  4. January 9, 2008 21:25

    Inspiring and beautiful. Thanks for sharing.

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